| Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: How much retrospection is too much? Sometimes I find myself in a cycle of reflecting on the thoughtless thing I said to a friend 25 years ago, or the time I did something foolish in front of a boy I liked in what seems like a different lifetime. Sometimes it’s more serious, like reflecting on how I should never have gotten married (the first time) and poor decisions I made not trusting myself after my divorce. For what it’s worth, I’m remarried now, happily, I think, and have kids and a good job and friends and am in a good space, and have been for years. So why am I perseverating on the past whenever I happen to wake up to pee at 4 a.m.? Does everyone do this? — Nighttime Reflections Read your responses to this week’s reader question We asked readers to channel their inner Carolyn Hax and answer this question. Column Carolyn Hax and Haben Kelati | | | | 
