| Dear Carolyn: One of my daughters is expecting her second baby in the spring, while my other daughter has recently informed me that she and her husband are against having children and have already taken permanent birth control steps. I did not have children thinking they would owe me grandchildren, but I love being a grandmother. I am shocked by the reaction I have had to learning that one of my kids won’t be having kids of her own. It is completely her decision, of course, but I’m struggling with how I will be able to divide my attention equally between my daughters when one is on a journey that requires so much more community and offers so many rewards. My daughters are both very sensitive and highly perceptive, and I worry about being accused of favoritism because I am spending more money and time on one than the other. Any perspective on how I might manage not to screw this up? — Struggling | 
