| Dear Carolyn: I am half of a gay male couple living in Florida. I just retired and want to spend the summer taking a road trip from Florida to Alaska and back. I’ve dreamed about it all my life and finally have the time to do it and am well off financially. My husband hates long road trips, and I don’t want to take him. He’s going to do nothing but complain. About three days into it, he’ll say he’s tired of driving and wants to go home, he’s going to be miserable the whole time and will make me miserable in the process. Further, he has a long list of demands that will triple the amount of time and money this will cost: no more than six hours of driving per day, a nice hotel every night rather than the camping out that I prefer and leasing a gas-guzzling SUV rather than my energy efficient midsize car. I suspect some or all of these are passive aggressive because he really doesn’t want the trip to happen. I understand his not wanting to sit home alone for six weeks while I’m photographing bears, moose and elk in the Yukon Territory, but honestly, I’m not sure our marriage survives this trip. I’m seriously considering just sneaking out the door and sending him postcards. I have told him point-blank that the first time he complains about anything I’m dropping him at the nearest airport so he can catch a flight home. Any ideas? — On the Road Again | 
