Love Letter: Is celibacy cool now?
Plus, books to help you navigate a divorce.
Love Letter
July 24, 2026

Laura Doyle, a self-described “former shrew,” believes that becoming a “surrendered wife” will save your marriage. She also believes it may save you.

Her message, first published in her 1999 book, “The Surrendered Wife,” was provocative, to say the least. But many women have credited it with saving their marriages. “I almost gagged myself when I saw the title,” a relationship coach said. “But within two weeks, I saw the difference.”

Click the link below to read more about why Doyle’s advice still resonates for many. You’ll also find an episode of “The Opinions” about why Gen Z-ers are ditching sex, and eight books to help you navigate a divorce.

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